Cinderella Solution

She places her jaded heart in a tiny begging bowl and kneels before him. He dispenses his affection like loose change - amusing himself with her look of gratitude. For a fleeting moment they both pretend that the exchange of value has taken place. She remembers a period when he wanted her with passion. She remembers a period when each of them did tricks for her. She remembers who she was and the power of seduction; the power of youth, a fairly face, sexuality and vitality. She dreamed dreams of everything possible. Obviously the largest dream of echoes through her girl-child mind "I want to be a bride ".She so vividly remembers her wedding, it had been all she ever wanted and often thinks of it as her'princess day '.

Daddy called her Princess as he tucked her into Cinderella Solution at night. She believed she was his princess and never questioned his predictions of 1 day becoming a beautiful woman, falling madly in love and living happily ever after.

What a joke. What a great big fat lie. Was she really so deluded? Was it misfortune, bad judgment, bad choices or is the dream for only'others '. It probably never occurred to her that the Princess by definition must stay young and beautiful.

Cinderella probably started all of it and it had been reinforced over and over in books, movies, conversations and culture.

As a child she wondered about'Him'and played dress-up games with her friends. They certainly were all called Mrs. and prepared tea for when Mr. came home. They'd bride dolls and baby dolls. They imagined and designed their future wedded bliss. He, was handsome, successful, rich and romantic.

Girls weren't really likely to worry an excessive amount of with things like education or finance. That was unless you were a'Plain Jane '. No, boys don't like girls if they're too smart anyway. Beauty is the important thing - beauty is everything. Beauty can be your ticket into'happily ever after '.

Happily ever after always had me a little baffled. Most girls seemed to be very confident with the story ending at happily ever after. It nagged at me a little - well actually it worried me a significant lot. I sort of perceived it to become a little like death. It seemed if you ask me that after you got married your story finished. If happily ever after was so wonderful then why didn't it become another story; an even better story?

Yet another thing that actually Cinderella Solution me was that as a teen we were all very obsessed with our looks and working our magic, but something seemed very, very strange. The married women in my town were anything but types of happily ever after. I don't mean to be unkind, but these women really scared me. The men were neither princes nor charming.

(I wondered about your ex who kissed the frog who became the prince. Plenty of warts I would expect and probably that's not past an acceptable limit from reality either.)

Well I don't know who'd warts or who'd what; I was just observing and wondering. I saw men who drank an excessive amount of and yelled too loud. Women in thread bare dresses and grubby little kids hanging off them. Hair in plastic curlers and clothes pegs in mouths. Daytime soaps and talkback radio. I certainly knew nothing about'all of the riches in the land '. Enough to get fags for the week and a punt on the pony's maybe, but no diamonds or mink coats which were the status symbols at the time.

Things have changed only a little since that time and women of today have reached least questioning some of those issues. Thankfully, woman now are gaining education, good jobs and independent incomes. Many, are also finding they're quite effective at looking after children by themselves rather than enduring abusive relationships. To listen to women talk you would think that they really have analyzed and resolved their Cinderella conflicts, but have they?